Anticipation

I know the the anticipation is killing you, but trust me-- its worth the wait. Some changes coming soon! (This week I promise) until then, keep living the sexy* life ;)

Independence [every] Day

Wishing you a sexy* 4th of July!

"Those American flag bikinis always look so trashy" -quote from your mother**

Decisions.  What to wear to the beach today. Which college to attend.  How you budget your money.  Kiss at the end of a date? Some decisions don't seem so important: How we cross the street. How we sign off on an email.  The way we hang a shirt on a hanger.  Do you ever wonder why you decide the way you do? Whose standards are you making decisions by?  Yours? Or the standards of someone else...

Think about this for a second.  Try to remember the last time you REALLY wanted to do something and then didn't do it.  Were you frustrated?  Were you doing everything except the one thing you wanted to do in order to distract yourself?  Did you feel like denying yourself was the right thing to do?  Who taught you that what you REALLY wanted to do was taboo?

Chances are there is someone in your life who indirectly made that decision for you. Think about the words you live by.  Statements that float in your brain like "There is not enough for everyone", or "This behavior is not lady like" Or "All the hangers have to be facing the same direction" (I swear I don't have hanger issues..)  were taught to you by others and you believed them.  Those words become part of the constitution that you subconsciously live by. 

But lets take the high road and NOT play the blame game. We all have a tendency to ask for advice, hear another person's story and model our actions after theirs, not realizing that they have completely different circumstances than ourselves. Its not their fault because you let them influence you.  Its not your fault either because you didn't know any better.  And, okay, not everything we hear from people is destructive.  I'm sure your grandma dropped a whole treasure chest of sweet grandma wisdom on you. The problems are the personal laws that you still defend although they cause you to make decisions that make you feel horrible.

Its all about honesty and setting your own standards.  Be honest like you are under the mother of all oaths and ask yourself:  Am I happy?  What would make me happy? Once you admit what you really want, you give yourself permission to go for it.  Its the first step to making new standards for yourself.  Your own laws for living.  A new constitution.  

Wave your flag, sexy*, because every day can be your independence day.   

**PS. Google images for American flag bikini and you'll find that while momma was partially right, some of those girls are rocking it!

Makeover for the Glass Half Empty Girl

This blog is a little selfish. I’ll explain.

Pessimism, doubt and the f word, fear are often ideas that we settle ourselves in. Side effects include bitchy attitudes, immobility, and NEVER reaching your full potential. Years ago, I realized that I give myself to these ideas more than I would like to. Not sexy.

I read The Secret as well as many other books about changing your thoughts to change your life. Changing your life into the easy life. The sexy* life. I’ve seen it work for people. I’ve seen it work for me. Even though it does work, the waiting game gets to me and I tend to teeter back and forth between the good vibes and the f word. A totally normal and human thing to do but I don’t want to fall back. I’m hard on myself about it. Not effective for expanding the mind.

Despite my teetering, I preach these teachings to friends, family, and strangers who I share a couple of words with. Advice in the form of long speeches and poetic one liners come out of me even when I’m going through a period of doubt. I started to notice that sharing these beliefs with others made mine grow stronger.

“To teach is to learn twice over”- Joseph Joubert

I didn’t understand this quote when I first read it, but now it makes sense. To teach something you have to revisit and restructure the facts so they can reach others. So that leaves a lot of time to think about all of these positive things. Enough time for them to leave a mark. So in sharing with you, I am relearning how to think this way.

So yes, this blog is kind of selfish. I want to reinforce, engrave, and tattoo these beliefs in my mind while simultaneously inspiring you. Sexy optimism for a sexy life.

*Sexy because living your dreams is the best climax you can ever have. And I want all of us to experience that together ;)